yankochick38 wrote: Soooo...online dating going well.
Seriously, what the hell would make someone ask that?! Is this the first thing that this guy has messaged you? If so, at least he actually said something other than just "Hello." I'll give him that. I knew some girls that did online dating and they told me that 99% of the first messages they received were either a bit vulgar, or some form of "Hello," "How are you?", "Hi!," "Sup?" and so on. And nothing ever came from that.
So, does this guy get the axe for that Al ignorance, or does he seem alright otherwise? Anyway, all I can say is that when it comes to anything, especially dating, absolutely don't settle! And besides, you are such a fantastic catch that I know there's someone out there for you that's almost as amazing as you. Hopefully they're smart enough to see it when they cross your path. It can take some time, but I know there's someone.
It's difficult enough for me finding good people just to talk to that share at least some interests with me... much less finding a friend... and forget about something more than a friend! I can only imagine how terribly online dating would go for me. As it was, the only time that came close to love / a relationship... I'm not even sure how to describe it. Long story short, she was very... disturbed, to put it politely... and ultimately admitted that she didn't care about me at all but just saw someone sweet, caring, and damaged that she could take advantage of. She went through hell herself, and when she met someone that had been through worse and thought of said person as "already broken," she thought, "I'm going to lie to him, build him up, and then destroy him again so that another person will know the pain that I feel inside... and hopefully that will make me feel happy and better again."
I hope it did, because it destroyed me... utterly destroyed me and left me a shell for the longest time. I feel so stupid about it, honestly. I was very skeptical, of course, when we met (wasn't looking for love, friendship, or anything, really... we met in a messageboard about movies and such, and had a lot in common) and she just started wanting to get closer to me... especially after we both opened up to each other more. I really should've just remained skeptical, but I did care about her a lot and trusted her. Never led her on, was happy being just friends, was always very careful and truthful with her, but in the end, I guess I was very stupid to fall for her plan.
I guess I can at least take comfort in the fact that she never traveled over here to chop me up into pieces or something, and I doubt we will ever cross paths again. Very lucky that she's halfway across the world. And it really just solidified for me that I probably need to just stay out of the dating world. Sorry for venting like that. Anyway...
Best of luck, Alicia! Keep us updated on when you find that very lucky someone!